365 Days of Fun in Marriage

No more boring marriage! Try 365 for communication and ideas to add fun to everyday life.

Baby Blanket

May30

Tip 374

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Just the Perfect Size

Store a large baby blanket or a lap quilt in the trunk of your car for when you travel with your mate. Long distances or even shorter trips can be much more enjoyable for the passenger if the person has a small blanket or quilt to snuggle with.

It’s the summer and hot out? That’s all the more reason to have a little blanket that can easily be packed to carry at all times. The car air conditioner might be colder than you want or you might set it cold just so you can snuggle with the blanket on your side of the car while your mate is driving.

Jack bought a cute lap quilt at Cracker Barrel Restaurant for me to have in the car because he’s often the one driving. Cracker Barrel also sells all sorts of country and homey type things. Since he bought that a few years ago, we never go anywhere in the car without it.

What do you think? Does that sound comfy?

~ Glenda (gj)

Words of Love

May26

Tip 373

How Many Words Say Love

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If your sweetheart enjoys crossword puzzles, then make one for him or her with all the romantic and loving words you can think of (words which will fit together).

You don’t know how to make a crossword puzzle?

You might want to try Crossword Compiler for the computer. This link is for computers running Windows, however here is some information from the web site for those using a Mac: “The program only runs on Microsoft Windows. However you can run the program on a Mac if you have a Windows running in an emulator or virtual machine (such as Virtual Box, VMware Fusion or Parallels Desktop).”

Crossword Compiler is what I have installed on my computer. I keep meaning to get-around-to making some puzzles to post here, but alas, that’s still on my get-around-to-someday list. (That list is quite long so don’t hold your breath waiting for me to post a puzzle or two.)

The program comes with a dictionary and thesaurus. However, the main dictionary and thesaurus I use is http://dictionary.reference.com/ and http://thesaurus.com/.

When you make your your own crossword puzzles, you can include pet names you have for each other, little side-line jokes you share with one another, and any other special tidbits that are meaningful between the two of you—and will fit in the puzzle.

What do you think? Would you like to solve a romantic puzzle made just for you? How about a puzzle made up of all the fun activities that you enjoy and vacations spots you’ve visited?

~ Glenda (gj)

What Brings You Joy

May23

Tip 372

Make a List

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Yes, make a list of the 10 things in life that bring you the most joy, peace, and fun. You might be so enthusiastic that you can name 10 things without even thinking about it, but do write them down.

Others might take a while to really grasp what makes them happy and brings joy.

Occasionally, people can’t name anything–they don’t know how to be happy. It’s often said that happiness is completely different, but happiness isn’t just about hearing good things or going to funny movies. Having a sense of peace can also bring happiness.

Are you through pondering about your list? If you’re not, then stop reading and finish your list—even if it takes you hours to think about.

Everyone’s list will be different—there are no right or wrong answers.

Are you finished writing yet?

Read over your list of 10 things. As we said, there are no right or wrong answers.

If most everything you wrote costs money, what happens if there is no money to provide for those things? Are you doomed to unhappiness? 

Are there things which require no money you’d like to add to your list?

Sometimes the most fun in a marriage comes from the simplest, everyday pleasures.

What do you think?

~ Glenda (gj)

That Time of the Month

May19

Tip 371

Every 28 Days

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It happens every month and is one of the most alluring things to look forward to. We often plan our schedules around it.

I’ve talked about it before but it never gets tiring. Though this month the full moon was at its fullest two days ago and seemed especially brilliant, there is still plenty of time to make plans to be outdoors or at the very least sit inside by a window and admire the moon.

Find a river or creek or lake—or ocean to sit by and reflect on the beauty of the moon’s reflection on the water.

Visit a local telescope and study the moon during the week it’s at its peak. Research online or in books about what makes a full moon—or how many moons the universe has that we now know of. Why does the earth have only one moon when there are so many moons? How does the moon affect most of the tides?

You have about a week every month to make plans surrounding that month’s full moon. If you’ve never taken the time to appreciate something like a full moon, start now. Talk a walk, have a nighttime picnic, sit in the grass, lie on a blanket and stare at the sky. It’s a great time just to be together in silence, yet it’s also a time that conversations seem to be very reflective and meaningful. Play tennis or badminton or gather a group and play nighttime volleyball in the sand.

Even if your calendar automatically marks full moons, make your own notation so that you’ll start making plans for most months. Once you do something especially memorable during full moon times, each month when you see the full moon, you’re reminded of that special time you had.

Mark these dates on your calendar and let me know what plans you make during the weeks of the following full moons in 2011:

ο  June 15

ο  July 15

ο  August 13

ο  September 12

ο  October 11

ο  November 10

ο  December 10

What do you think? Is it just another ho-hum nighttime sky or one more simple thing to look forward to?

~ Glenda (gj)

For Your Eyes Only

May16

Tip 370

Esoteric Language

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If you have pet phrases you use with each other when no one is around, make those phrases into abbreviations or acronyms that only the two of you know what they mean.

If you don’t have some fun things you say to each other only in private, lighten up and start finding fun things to say. Add some witty love language to your dialog.

Then, when you are around other people or in public, you can write those abbreviations or acronyms on a note, say them to each other, leave them as a text message, sign cards with them. It adds a sense of mystery and danger to use these expressions in public and gives a spark of intrigue to your relationship—almost like you are hiding a secret.

What do you think? Do you have pet phrases that only you and your sweetheart know the meaning?

~ Glenda (gj)

Direct Your Sweetheart

May12

Tip 369

Lead Your Mate in the Right Direction

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The next time you plan a surprise for your sweetheart, lead your mate to it.

Print off large arrows on your computer or draw some on paper—several of them. Don’t say anything, just leave arrows around the area pointing to wherever the surprise is at the end.

The best surprises like this are not at a birthday or anniversary but at a time when it’s least expected—then it’s the most fun.

What do you think? What other ways are fun to surprise your sweetie?

~ Glenda (gj)

Post It Everywhere

May9

Tip 368

Say It Over and Over

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Use sticky notes to write loving sayings. You might prefer writing the words “I Love You” over and over becaue you have many notes to write.

Use the entire sticky note pad and put the notes wherever you can find to put a note–everywhere, in drawers, refrigerator, towel cabinet, a can lid, in the trunk of the car, inside a snack bag. . . .

What do you think? What fun places can you think to put a surprise note?

~ Glenda (gj)

Romance Can Be Scary

May5

Tip 367

Focusing on the Wrong Thing

Romance is tricky. It’s often the thing people think should be sought after the most in marriage. Couples often seek unrealistic expectations played out in TV or movies. They try so hard that they fail.

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Switch that all consuming desire for romance into learning to enjoy your partner. Seek to be soul-mates and focus on having fun. When you let yourself be feel natural and have a good time each day, the romantic exchange will be more spontaneous and natural.

Look for ways to have a good time with your spouse each day—not just on weekends or holidays or vacations. Make it a point to find something you enjoy between you every day—five minutes a day of relishing each other’s companionship will build into more and more and more.

What do you think?

~ Glenda (gj)

Basket of Love

May2

Tip 366

Clean Fun

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Put together a gift basket and give to your spouse. On the card address it to the two of you.

What’s in the basket?

♥  Candles

♥ ♥  Bubble bath

♥ ♥ ♥  Flower petals

♥ ♥ ♥ ♥  CD of soft music

♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥  Perfumed Soaps

Let your imagination finish filling the basket.

The aim is for quiet, relaxed fun when the kids are off visiting friends.

What do you think? Are you bubbling over with ideas for a quiet, relaxed evening?

~ Glenda (gj)

Don’t Forget

May1

The tips are no longer being posted daily. As of May 1, 2011 the tips are being posted on Mondays and Fridays–unless something special comes up.

Have fun!

Glenda and Jack

Celebrating Fun in Marriage

April30

Tip 365

365 Days of the Year

This is the 365th day of posting tips for having fun in marriage.

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If you are new here, some tips are for just plain fun, some tips are for improving relationship and communication skills, and some are for adding to the romance which also results in more fun in your marriage.

One of the best tips I can give is to prowl around through past entries for ideas.

If that’s not a good enough tip for you because you’ve already read and tried all the tips given, then here’s one more. Don’t take your own self, your own demands, your own opinions, your own perceived rights so seriously. Give your partner more room for being himself or herself.

And if you don’t like that tip, then how about looking for romantic lyrics, romantic poems, and maybe some romantic short stories. Make a collection of all the ones you love and present them to your mate. You can snuggle some evening and read them aloud.

This has been a daily blog for the past 365 days (OK, I did get behind a few times and had to catch up), but after today the blog switches to two posts per week which will be on Mondays and Fridays–unless there’s something special.

We’d love to hear your comments, suggestions, thoughts, and ideas. Don’t hesitate to leave us your thoughts in the comment section (even if the thought is not about that particular blog entry).

Have fun in your marriage. God created spouses as helpers and mates for one another. Relish that gift and have some fun!

~ Glenda (gj)

Say It with Gusto

April29

Tip 364

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In any Language

I’m fluent in language—my own–that I learned as a toddler.

So, I dare not say that I am fluent in any other language.

I do remember how to say “I love you” from my junior high Latin classes (but Latin is a dead language), my high school Spanish classes, as well as German because I participated with a teaching program in German.

My intelligence also tells me not to dare try to write these out for anyone (especially the world wide web audience) let alone try to speak them now.

But, when it’s within your own marriage, have a little fun. I’m all about fun in marriage, so I’ve included two different links for you to look at. One of the sites gives a semi phonetic pronunciation guide.

No one else is probably listening or looking so have some fun in what you write to your sweetheart.

Check out the following links for writing “I love you” in several different languages:

  Links to Love

  eHow’s “How to Say (and Pronounce) I Love You in 10 Different Languages”

What do you think? What things can you recommend to others for having more fun as a couple? You can tell us in the comment section.

~ Glenda (gj)

Take Comfort in Your Own Problems

April28

Tip 363

Anonymity or Celebrity Hood

Which would you chose? I’ve always said how thankful I am that we are not a famous couple living under the microscope of the world’s scrutiny. I like my freedom. There’s comfort in anonymity.

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Anonymity is not something the newest royal couple has. Will and Kate will be married on April 29 with millions of guests—well, millions of viewers, that is.

We wish them well and hope they have much success in their marriage. They haven’t exactly had great examples of matrimonial bliss as examples to follow, but everyone can blaze anew and make their own tracks in how they do things.

Attitude drives much of our problems and many of our solutions.

Having to live where everyone evaluates their every misdirected comment, sartorial splendor or not, bad hair days and good hair days, vacationing to relieve stress while paparazzi have a field day—well, it does make it harder to sit back and have some basic fun in marriage.

Be grateful for your own problems. Most of us would not want to live in that kind of spotlight—almost like living in a reality TV show.

Oh, if you are interested in an uninformed commentary on the royal wedding, Willy Geist, commentator for MSNBC’s “Way too Early Show” conducts humorous interviews with people not so informed about the most talked about wedding since Princess Diana.

Willy Geist also does some intriguing commentaries on very non-newsworthy events and sometimes current events with quite a slant to the normal perspective of things. When you’re in the mood for a laugh, check it out sometime. He always closes with, “And that’s the news you can not use.”

What do you think? What would you do differently in your marriage if you were famous enough to always be on tabloid covers?

~ Glenda (gj)

Make Plans

April27

Tip 362

But Be Flexible

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I’m all for making advanced plans to do things—there’s just something invigorating about the excitement of waiting for a fun event to happen. You ponder how things are going to be; you look forward to it; you rearrange all your schedules. Then . . .

Life happens. Your mate has to work or can’t get away. An unexpected bill pops up making it impractical to go ahead with your prearranged plans. Your spouse gets sick or one of the kids gets sick.

I haven’t always been called “Glenda the Good Witch”—sometimes I know people thought differently of me. I had to train myself to be more kind, compassionate, considerate, obliging, and accepting of things in life that pop up and mess up my best laid plans. I’m a slow learner and it took me awhile to be accepting of broken plans. Some people have described me as stubborn.

For me, once I had something set in my mind, then that’s how it was going to be. Uh, that’s not how life works.

Maybe there’s no one else who has been despicable like I have been, and that’s great. Can you walk on water, too?

Seriously, though, in marriages one of the biggest lessons people have to learn in living, breathing, communicating, thriving in the same household is to learn to be flexible.

When you watch athletes, dancers, contortionists, or even children, their physical bodies are all flexible. It’s just as important to keep our minds and attitudes flexible–probably more important.

What do you think? How do you handle the situation when your best laid plans go awry?

~ Glenda (gj)

If You Are the Only One

April26

Tip 361

Who Plans Fun Things

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It’s easy to feel resentful if you are the one in your marriage who plans for all the fun activities, the surprises, the treats, the unexpected outings, the festivities, the dates.

Don’t.

Now, that’s not meant as “don’t plan any more fun things until your mate starts pitching in with ideas.” No, that’s not what it means.

Some people have a natural propensity for fun ideas and for instituting seemingly spontaneous festivities which totally surprise the other partner. If that’s your situation, then be glad your partner enjoys what you do and that it’s a special time for you both.

If he or she likes what you do and you get enjoyment out of the fun, then don’t let a pity party ensue for being the only one who makes exciting plans in your marriage.

Accept it and relish the exuberance you have. Be glad your mate finds enjoyment in all the ideas you plan. More than likely your mate does do small things to surprise you—if not, tell your spouse how much a few spontaneous, loving acts would mean to you.

What do you think? Do you have one person in your marriage who is better at creating everyday fun and date night events?

~ Glenda (gj)

Take the Initiative

April25

Tip 360

Breaking the Stress Cycle

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When your mate is overworked, stressed, or just needs a break, take the initiative to schedule an activity that would help him or her to reenergize, relax, or refocus.

You should know your mate well enough to decide whether a surprise event is best or whether your mate would enjoy helping to plan an event or outing.

However, most of the time when an individual is maxed out, the last thing the person wants to do is plan something else, even a fun activity. It can seem at the time, one more thing added to a plate that is already filled with too much to do. 

It can be as elaborate as a few days away, a night out, a picnic in the back yard, or someone to watch the kids while you go for a walk at the park—just something that alters the everyday stress level.

What do you think? How do you help your mate unwind and de-stress?

~ Glenda (gj)

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