Merry Christmas to each one of you. I hope this season brings the most loving Christmas memories you’ve ever had.
Don’t forget that one the best gifts you can give your loved one is yourself. People can buy all the material possessions in the world, but when it comes down to what means the most, it is to have a love between you that outlasts everything else.
Put your mate first in your thoughts. Plan fun and loving things that would especially please your mate. Think of things that may not interest you in the least. However, our mates want us to be interested in the things they do. Maybe your mate bowls or fishes or does computer games and you have no interest in those. You don’t have to become experts at any of those, but in a marriage you need to show interest. Find out enough about the things your spouse loves doing to be able to carry on a viable conversation.
Some people think they have to focus on themselves first. If you do, that’s not going to maintain a spousal relationship in which people relish being together.
Put your mate’s interests before yours. Maybe it will be a little lopsided for awhile but sooner or later, your mate will start reciprocating and wanting to put you first. After a while, the relationship will build into something you never thought possible. It’s the law of reciprocity.
Merry Christmas and we wish you all the marriage happiness possible.
Our love to you,
Glenda and Jack