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Embrace the Differences

January26

Tip 271

Too Much Talking, Too Little Talking

For years there were several statistics that went around saying women speak about 20,000 words per day and men speak about 7,000. That went for years as fact until people started trying to track down the research for the statistic but could never find any. It was surmised that someone may have said this in jest, and then it became “fact.” The “fact” seemed to be originally cited in The Female Brain by Louann Brizendine, founder and director of the University of California, San Francisco’s Women’s Mood and Hormone Clinic. The statistic has since been retracted.

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Studies with recorded data have since then shown that the amount of words spoken is much closer to the same amount in gender than originally thought.

One thing that is known for sure is that women have a tendency to speak faster than men. Women are more likely to talk about feelings and emotions and feel a strong need to talk about such things. Men generally like to talk about facts, figures, sports, or data.

When men get in from a day’s work, they most often like a few minutes off by themselves to vegetate in quiet or with the remote control. When women get in from a day’s work, they most often like to talk to someone about feelings, how the day went, about events, about anything. Talking is a stress release for most women.

Are the above two examples stereotypical? Of course they are because society is not cloned.

The point is to embrace the differences in how people de-stress, react to things, or seek relaxation. Recognize what your mate needs and try to oblige. To insist your mate react the way you do, creates dis-harmony and turmoil.

For more fun in marriage, embrace the differences and accept that you are not alike.

What do you think? Do you think husbands and wives should try to agree on everything?

~ Glenda (gj)

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