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No More Excuses

November12

Tip 196

Start This Second to Make Better Choices

We all do stupid things, dumb things, hurtful things, bad things–hey, we’re human. But, focusing on what you should have done or could have done will not get you a moment closer to having a good marriage, having more fun in marriage, or even being a success at anything.

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It’s what you “do” that counts—not what you look back at and regret—it’s how you focus from this second forward. It’s not what you ‘talk about’ ‘that you are planning on doing to make changes. Talk’s cheap. Do it. No more excuses. Many times it’s a case of sucking up our pride and saying, “I’m going to start making steps to have a better relationship.”

You can start right now, this minute! You don’t have to wait until tomorrow or Monday or the first of the month or January 1. If you start right now at this moment to quit making excuses, tomorrow at this same time you’ll already have 24 hours behind you that you’ve succeeded—or are trying to succeed. Even if you failed but tried, you are a success.

It’s been one month since we talked about making a negative jar on October 11. If you weren’t reading then, you were to create a jar to drop money in every time you said something negative. Some people may be rich now because the spouse with the least negative got all the money. If that worked for you, then try a “no more excuses jar.” You know what? It doesn’t matter if the negative jar worked for you or not. The point is “try again, and again, and again. . . .”

If you have to write these phrases down to remember what you’re not supposed to say or dwell on, then do that. Don’t live in the past at what you should have, could have, or would have done. Start now thinking what you can do to do your part to have a happier marriage and even to develop a fun relationship.

These phrases keep you locked in chains of the past. If you want to try another money jar, all the more fun to work at this together. For one month eliminate these phrases from your vocabulary:

I wish. . . .

If only. . . .

I should have. . . .

I could have. . . .

I would have. . . .

I would, but. . . .

Yes, but. . . .

I can’t. . . .

I was born this way. . . .

That’s the way I was made. . . .

That’s just my personality. . . .

Be sure and tell us in the comment section how you’re doing with eliminating negativity and eliminating these phrases which lock you into the past.

~ Glenda (gj)
www.WhatWordsDoYouWear.com
www.GlendaSchoonmaker.com
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