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The Five Love Languages

July29

Tip # 90

 

Your Love and My Love May Not Be the Same 

A book that should be mandatory reading before an “I Do” is ever said is The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. However, even if a couple has been married for 25+ years, each person in the marriage should still read the book. It’s a valuable marriage builder no matter how long you’ve been married. The book is not just for a Christian marriage; the tools are for anyone.

Because each person has his or her own way of feeling loved, a spouse can be doing everything possible to show love–except the one thing the other spouse needs or wants. This book identifies the six ways that people feel or express love. Each way is completely different than the other ways.

After reading The Five Love Languages, it becomes obvious which “language” is your own and which is your spouse’s. After learning your spouse’s love language, then it’s up to you to make sure your love is expressed at least part of the time in this particular way.

Mr. Chapman defines the 5 languages as

  • Words of Affirmation (compliments, encouraging words, etc.)
  • Quality Time (togetherness with focused attention on each other, good listening skills, eye contact, etc.)
  • Receiving Gifts (gifts of any sort—something purchased or handmade, gift of self in being there when spouse really needs your physical presence, etc.)
  • Acts of Service (cooking a meal, cleaning, doing errands, being a helper around the house, etc.)
  • Physical Touch (hugging, sitting close enough that at least a hand or elbow is touching, holding hands in public, etc.)

This marriage book is a must read for every married couple. Your relationship will improve after learning the principles of The Five Love Languages.  

(Do you find discrepancies with the way you want to be loved and the way you are shown love? We’d love to hear what you have to say!) 

~ Glenda  (gj)

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