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Buy the Perfect Gift

May28

Tip # 28 

Listen to Your Spouse’s Idle Gibberish 

It may seem like gibberish, but if you listen to things your spouse says when not really talking about anything major, you can often pick up gift buying clues. So, how does that work? Many times as you are watching TV, leafing through magazines, walking past stores, or doing everyday activities, your spouse may idly say something about what a nice such and such is. Yet, it’s nothing your spouse ever mentioned as being wanted. Some people won’t ask for things. 

Your spouse also may casually comment about how something personal or around the house isn’t working right, but that’s all that’s said about it. However, kitchen appliances are only good gifts if your spouse is a chef. And, vacuum cleaners are hardly good gifts even if you spouse is a maid. 

I also bet that the funny tie or beautiful man-bag would never be received with enthusiasm.   

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Whether it’s gifts for birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, or other special times, notice the type, styles, colors, and even brands of things your spouse either points out or buys. 

Men are more open about things they want, but women insist on husbands learning to read cues, minds, hints, and subtleties. So, it can take a year or more of picking up tiny bits and pieces to discern that perfect gift–or at least an acceptable gift. 

Also, enough is enough. 

Don’t buy every item relating to an area of interest, such as: 

  • every trinket relating to a hobby—if someone is interested in golf, it doesn’t mean they want a golf toothpick holder
  • every single piece made in a pattern of dishes: napkins, candle holders, serving dishes, 35 different sizes of glassware.

Don’t buy: 

  • books, software, cd’s or anything relating to an area your spouse needs (or you think your spouse needs) to improve
  • artwork or things to hang on the wall–unless the spouse has pointed it out and wanted it
  • skimpy lingerie–it’s tricky to give because the recipient may feel you have only one thing on your mind
  • comfy sleep wear–it’s tricky because it may look frumpy and frumpy is NOT what you want to be giving in a gift
  • flowers as a gift—flowers are beautiful but gifts they are not.

I do have to say though that the worst gift of all time I’ve witnessed had nothing to do with spouses. It was a gift given one Christmas by my mother to my niece. It was a beautifully wrapped, very small box that Mother kept insisting my niece wait to open until everything else had been opened. 

It was batteries for the presents my niece had gotten that Christmas. 

Enough said. 

~ Glenda (gj)  www.wordwardrobe.com  or www.glendaschoonmaker.com 

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