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Listening Skills

May10

 Tip # 10

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Just Listen            

One of the hardest things I had to do in marriage was to learn to listen. I’m not talking about the art of being a good listener. I’m talking about just listening without giving advice, opinions, or suggestions.  It’s the one part of listening skills that seems to be the hardest for some of us.

We all have frustrations in life whether it’s with our jobs, extended family, neighbors, sales clerks. Sometimes the situation is an ongoing problem and the marriage partner simply needs to vent in a safe environment. Yet, when the spouse tries to vent and is constantly bombarded with suggestions, opinions, or ideas of how things could be handled differently, it causes the spouse to no longer feel he or she has a safe environment to vent.  

Here’s an idea. The next time your spouse wants to share a problem with you or difficult situation, just listen. (Oh, my, that is hard for us who always love to give opinions.) Don’t offer any suggestions, recommendations, or personal opinion for how you would handle things. Just listen.  

If you hear the words, “What would you do?” or “What would you suggest?” then you get your chance to share your opinion. But, until you hear a question asking you for your personal opinion, Just Listen. 

 ~ Glenda (gj)  www.wordwardrobe.com  or www.glendaschoonmaker.com

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