Last Minute Love
I am guilty as charged for letting Valentine’s Day slip up on me. How could I do that when we try to focus so much on love, romance, and fun? That’s probably exactly how Valentine’s Day came without us thinking about it. Plus, we had both our birthdays within the past 2 weeks and we celebrate so much for those.
So, if you are like us and did not make advance plans for Valentine’s Day until the day is already here, never fear. Having a memorable Valentine’s Day is not lost. For the people who give their mom a Valentine’s gift, just make sure that what you give your honey is drastically different than what you give your mom. Nothing worse in the world than being treated like someone’s mother—and I love Mothers—but Valentine’s Day is a day for a different kind of love than focusing on maternal love.
Whatever you have done for Valentine’s in the past, do something different. Going out to dinner on Valentine’s is one of the worst days of the year for eating out. There are usually crowds, lines, and waiting for the food. How can you gaze into your sweetheart’s eyes in circumstances like this? The food is not the highpoint of the day so make sure your priorities are straight instead of just going out for a Valentine’s meal because that’s what the commercials say to do. Oh, and giving your sweetheart a heart shaped box of Valentine’s chocolates??? Where’s the romance in that? It would be more romantic to put individual Hershey’s Kisses all throughout the house and say “I love you all the time and everywhere” than handing a box of commercially decorated box of candy. Think outside that box of chocolates.
Maybe buy a take out dinner or even deli sandwiches and small cheeses and crackers and small chocolates. Set out everything to have a picnic in your own home in a room in which you never eat: a blanket on the floor, dinner on top of the bed, even the garage, or outside on the sidewalk if your area is private and the weather is workable. You can even use a picnic basket for the dinner–or laundry basket with colorful cloth to carry the food in. Set all the candles in the house around the area you are having dinner. If you know no one can see your sweetheart’s email, write a carefully worded email to create anticipation for getting together that evening. Be original!
Make simple signs expressing your love and tape them all throughout the house. Use lipstick to write a note on the bathroom mirror. If your schedules are too busy for Valentine’s Day, give your mate a teddy bear with a note attached for a special date you are arranging very soon.
Just don’t let your plans include every cliché of Valentine activities. When you first met your mate, you had no problem thinking of romantic and fun things to do. Reach back into your memory and do some of those same things now.
Doing the same things year after year and in the same way, loses the serendipity and excitement in your relationship. Think outside of the one day a year when people are told to celebrate love.